There have been days when you have woken up and thought: why am I doing this?
Days when you said to yourself: why am I doing this job, when it’s not what I really love?
Times when you have looked at your life and wondered: why am I in this relationship when it’s not what I truly dreamed of?
It’s easy to get buried in the details of life.
We have so many small deadlines to meet that we sometimes forget the Big Deadline; you know – the one we all have but don’t ever talk about.
I sometimes think those little deadlines are there only so we don’t have to think about the Big Deadline.
But it’s there. Waiting for us.
They're not that different from you, are they? ... Did they wait until it was too late to make from their lives even one iota of what they were capable? Because, you see gentlemen, these boys are now fertilizing daffodils. But if you listen real close, you can hear them whisper their legacy to you. Go on, lean in. Listen, you hear it? ... Carpe, carpe diem, seize the day boys, make your lives extraordinary! - JACK KEATING, DEAD POET'S SOCIETY
I think about this in the quiet moments. In my life, it has provided context.
It’s a frightening thing, to live as if we had only a limited time to live – so most of us live as if we have forever.
But we don’t.
“As you grow older, you’ll find the only things you regret are the things you didn’t do.” ZACHARY SCOTT
It’s truly exhilarating to see someone follow their heart, take that leap of faith. How many people put their heart on the line for love or risk everything – everything – for a long-held dream?
But when it’s us letting go … it’s terrifying, isn’t it?
Our minds tell us to pull back, urge us to caution.
But as Dicky Fox said in Jerry Maguire: If your heart is empty, then your head really doesn’t matter.
Life is not lost by dying; life is lost minute by minute, day by dragging day, in all the thousand small uncaring ways. ~STEPHEN VINCENT BENET
It was pointed out to me recently that my latest novels are all about characters who step outside of everything they know to pursue something – or someone – they love.
They risk everything and don’t look back, no matter what it costs.
I don’t know why I picked up this cause to champion in my novels. When I write I hope of course to keep a reader turning pages; I want to move, to entertain. I certainly don’t think about changing the world.
But … if something I write might inspire someone to follow their heart over their head, I’ll take that.
For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way. Something to be got through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life. ~FR. ALFRED D'SOUZA
It’s why I do what I do. I dream that one day someone will say: I read your book once and it changed everything for me. I believed in what you imagined so clearly it made me decide to live for the passion, and not for the math.
Some days it feels – to quote again from Jerry Maguire – like I am hanging on by a very thin thread.
But like Rod Tidwell said, I dig that about me.
And it’s what I dig about you too.
Remembering you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart. STEVE JOBS